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The Martial Art Believers

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I was going to start by writing how martial arts are not for everyone, but that would be sarcasm. I think there are enough different martial art styles in the world for everyone to find something that is meaningful and purposeful. I know all the standard reasons why most choose to not practice. Time, responsibilities, commitments, fear, worry, and lack of self-confidence come to mind.

I understand it all. I battle the same on a daily basis. Can I fit practice in today? What else do I have to finish? Can I really do this? These are all the questions that capture the thoughts of the martial art non-believer.

My sarcasm can easily roll into a jaunt about how martial arts are only for those who wish to pursue personal excellence, inner peace, confidence, potential, defense, and fitness. Sarcasm aside,  I’m not sure anyone can deny the practical and creative benefits mentioned in this list. So, I say to the person who is interested in learning a martial art, but allows excuses to diminish his desire, stop waiting. If you are a believer in the benefits, it’s time to hop on board.

From a woman’s perspective, there can be fear based on lack of awareness or understanding. Martial arts sound like something difficult, unattainable, and perhaps even manly. What woman, unless some kind of professional fighter, wants to be seen as aggressive, physical, or potentially violent in a defensive situation? What woman wants to compromise femininity for the sake of a fighting art? What woman wants to bellow loud noises, crack a board, or stand up against an aggressor? I have a simple answer. Martial arts are for every woman. None of what is mentioned here captures what martial arts really offer.

Large, small, outgoing, shy, young, old, or anywhere in between, martial arts offers every woman opportunities, survival skills, betterment, and most importantly, a new vision of herself. Everyone starts at the beginning and builds upon the basics. Martial arts and self-defense both offer women something they never had before, the tools to defend. Defense, in real life, may not be pretty, but without the tools to defend, her chance of escape, or even survival, are minimized. That sounds like a good reason to learn to me. She may outwardly seem like a non-believer, when in reality, all she needs is a little coaxing to get her over the hump and into class.

What about guys? What do they gain from martial arts? They are already strong, burly, or masculine. Martial arts will help them discover who they really are inside, and allow them to  push themselves, Yes, they will learn how to fight better, and become internally abundant and prosperous. Martial arts are physical, but they teach the best lesson that calms the male ego, learning to fight so you don’t have to fight.

This means that guys will learn how to fight and how to defend, but more importantly, how to avoid the attack or remove himself from it, as the first course of action. They teach humility and decision making that relies not on emotion, but on deflecting an impending crisis.

cantYears ago, a male friend of mine asked our instructor a question. He asked what he should do if he was in his car, and someone pulled a gun on him through an open window. He was expecting some great defense, maybe something that involved taking the gun from the assailant and then punching him through the window, or something a television drama would show. The instructor just looked at him and said, “Don’t ever put yourself in that situation.”  Sometimes, the male ego and imagination are more powerful than they need to be. Martial arts help control where, and when, a martial art should ever be used.

Kids are the best believers of all! They are open-minded, and believe  unless they are told not to, or until they prove it wrong. One story in my upcoming book, The Martial Arts Woman, mentions how young girls are able to do knuckle push ups as a warm up to a martial art class, because they were never told they couldn’t do them. In later years, if they never did a knuckle push up before, they physically have a difficult time doing one because they never trained their mind, or body, to realize that it was possible.  The younger set of girls, who naturally believed, just followed along in class and did them without any trepidation.

Kids who practice in my pre-skills classes, ages 4 to 6, perform their version of martial arts, and believe me, I’m always excited and amazed when they pay attention and execute a command with a smile. The key to these young believers is making it fun through learning. They are accepting and believing. They see Ninja Turtles and other symbols of youthful, playful martial artists, and want to be the same.

Then there are the rest of us, aren’t there? We are the true believers, and those who have put in a few years. We practice diligently, both physically or mentally, and have joined the unspoken, unwritten, lifelong martial art club, no holds barred. We continually try to find ways to kick it up a notch. We  teach, train, write, compete, or a combination thereof. There is, in fact, no other comparable activity we would rather do.

That is not to say we are believers all of the time. Sometimes, we must face the fact that our martial art situation needs adjusting, or we need to be flexible in our approach, but we always strive to find a way to continue. That’s the believer in us.

13466321_10208539002985564_6449632311675159052_nThe martial art non-believer has a lot to learn. What martial arts teaches is not so much about technique and skill, although those are necessary and important. Rather, martial arts provide a plan on how to live. They teach perseverance, and how to apply patience and humility to our lives. They remind us that we are powerful and have unlimited and untapped potential. They help us focus and funnel energy.

The most important, highly sought after reason why martial arts are so important, though  (drum roll please!), is that they help you believe in a much more important topic than fighting, defense, skills, or any other martial art technique. They help you believe…in you.

xoxo

Andrea

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Andrea F. Harkins, is a writer, motivator, life coach, martial artist, and public speaker. Her book, The Martial Arts Woman, will be published later this year. Andrea is Internationally known for her positivity through martial arts efforts and outreach, and her writing. She is currently a columnist for Martial Arts Illustrated UK, The Martial Arts Guardian (UK), the World Martial Arts Magazine, MASUCCESS, Conflict Manager, The Parrish Village News, and her blog, The Martial Arts Woman.  Contact her through this website’s CONTACT ME page for information on public speaking, autographs, and life coaching.

 

 

6 thoughts on “The Martial Art Believers

  1. I have read several of your articles and am eagerly awaiting publication of your book. Is there a list that will inform me when it is available??
    Your article was spot on about MA being useful for everyone. My biggest regret is that I didn’t start until age 47. This spring I earned my 3rd degree BB in both Ken-ryu Kempo Karate and the American Open Sword System.
    I also teach and love every minute of it. I have seen the transformation of children, women and men, starting with my own son.
    He took Kempo Karate for two years before I started. It was wonderful having a “private” teacher when I got home to find I had no clue how to do the technique I had just learned in class. My son learned patience and he went on to teach when he was just 12.
    Thank you for taking the time to write about Martial Arts. You must be a very organized person.
    Sincerely,
    Sensei Uhl

    1. Believe me, I will post everywhere when it’s available. It looks like it won’t be until maybe November! The important thing, and only important thing here, is that you started. Age means nothing! Keep going!

  2. You’re so right! Martial artists are a breed apart. While they might look fierce on the mat in practice or on the world stage, quite often they are the most humble and understanding people one can ever meet. Can I go out on a limb here and say that martial arts is the best kind of psychotherapy that a person can ask for? I mean, let’s be honest: there’s no therapist robbing you by the hour for information you can really discover yourself, if you put yourself in an environment where people can truly help, while helping yourself grow. In martial arts class, you have a mirror to face yourself with to help you put things in perspective. The great thing about the instructor is that she will be absolutely honest with you when you’re not doing your best. Plus, you see her on a daily basis, versus once a week with the psychotherapist. Sorry to ramble, but I just believe that is what martial arts believers are all about: Finding truth.

  3. Hi Andrea, excellent post and I fully agree! I first got into martial arts as a kid because I wanted to imitate Bruce Lee, Sho Kosugi and various other MA movie stars. I must admit that I was a little disappointed when I first started realistic Karate training but this soon changed. What I have got out of martial over the past 31 years is much more valuable than the ability to take on 50 armed ninja or to be able to jump up a 30 foot tree lol.

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